decisions youve made that you regret making

[yoshimitsu9]

as the title states!

just curious to find out what other people have done in those positions where they make a big mistake and think "fuck why did i have to do that?" and have to deal with it for a long time down the track. also state why, what and how youve dealt with them.

i spose its a bit of an insight into other peoples lives but we all may learn a thing or two on how to deal with things our selves.

my story: pretty simple really, happens to everyone. broke up with the missus 2ish months ago and now regret it, just miss her etc and realised that life at the moment isnt as good as it was.

dealing with it: take that tea spoon of cement and not worry too much about it. also try to mend things to atleast get friendship status

[riojin]

its always women.


i have this policy of not dating anyone related to my close mates.

i always had a thing for my best mates sister. after 2 years of knowing her we became good friends too. she asked me how i felt about her and i lied and said i don't feel anything and couldnt ever do anything with people related to my close friends.

after 6 months from then we became closer friends and i realised she was the woman of my dreams. i never told her or admitted how i felt but she and everyone else could tell. its been 4 years since she asked me how i felt and i regret not telling her.

to cut this long story short because of the way i feel about her weve been on and off friends for the last 4 years. we had a big fight once because she tried to push me into admitting how i felt and i wouldn't do it. because of that fight she didnt talk to me for a year and i lost my best mate.

i made an effort 2 months ago to talk to her. we chatted like nothing bad ever happened and one night we went out together. she told me I'm like a brother to her, which made me think that she'd finally stopped trying to push me to tell her how i felt and was also comfortable with just being friends. by this stage however i was ready to admit how i felt and i did. she was comfortable about being friends because she now has a boyfriend. i acted like it didnt bother me too much and wished her well. were not talking again now, ive seen her a few times recently and neither of us can bring ourselves to say anything.

me and my now old best mate are friends again but its not the same. he tells me that his sister and her boyfriend are pretty serious. theyre going overseas together on a holiday later this year.

[verm69]

BAWWWWWWWWW


you douche... just go "yo, i want that"
and she'd be all "sweet... let mate and have babies..."

why couldn't you tell her? was it because of her brother? you should have just told him and asked if it were okay if you started seeing each other. and i'm sure if you told her how you feel, she'd have feelings for you and she'd sabotage her current relationship without even knowing... oh yeah....




i was seeing a girl who was the girl of my dreams.... she was witty, smart, driven and gorgeous... i used to go see her in sydney. But she was very touchy, as in if you made one wrong comment she'd get pissed at you. We were great friends, and she was considering moving up, and i kept flying to sydney see her once a month or so. I was falling head over heals in love for her...

the problem was she had an ex bf that she was still kinda attached to. They used to hang out and she'd tell me all about it... it's not like she didn't have feelings for me and stuff, we used to make out, and i would tell her how i felt and that i thought i was falling for her. We used to go out to dinner and then walk around drunk and find weird little hotels by coincidence that had a piano/band playing and go and watch after dinner. We'd talk every night and have witty conversations reminisant of the Gilmore girls that lasted for hours. Sit in the funkiest fucking bars on the Sydney harbor and drink and talk... Fucking best times of my life. She reminded me of the character Scarlet Joanhanson plays in that JT song "what goes around comes back around", thats why i have the clip on my phone...

Then i went down for her birthday. We went out clubbing with a bunch of people, including her Ex and his friends. she pretty much ignored me and her bf and his friends payed out on me... i sat in this club alone after flying down and spending like $500 to see her for the weekend. it was FUCKED... so i said that i'm going back to hers and i'll see her in the morning. of course she didn't come.

next day comes around and she tells me how much fun her and her ex had last night, and he drove her home after going and hanging out by themselfs for a few hours... great... that was the day my flight had me going home.

So we were about to leave and her friends comes around and ask's me "so are you going to come back soon dave? do you like Sydney?"

i fucking flipped out saying how "I fucking hate this fucking city! the people are rude, there's too much traffic, everyone's pricks. i fucking LOATH it. i don't EVER want to come back to this fucking bull shit piece of crap hell hole, Sydney..."




both of their jaw's drop to the ground... she see's me off and doesn't call again. I tried calling her heaps, she never answered my calls. She wouldn't return my calls. I called and asked her sister to get her to call me back, she said she would, but i never got a call. I emailed her and asked her what was going on. Haven't her from her since...

That was about 6-7 years ago... i still try to look for her on the net and stuff, to no avail.

i still think about her all the time, even after 3 serious relationships... i KNOW that if we had gotten together back then, we'd still be together now. I could have stayed with her for ever, and been amazingly happy... she was my dream girl





but shit happens, and i don't let it hold me back..... and i'm amazingly happy with my current gf. i just hope i don't see her again, otherwise it might fuck things up for me again...










holly fuck that was a long story... i didn't think it would go that long

[riojin]

dude thats depressing to read.

aslong as youre happy now stick with it. that girl in your story is one of those total messes you wanna stay away from. she screwed you over before and would do it again. women don't change. you could be married to your current girl friend in a few years and the story girl would appear back in your life, make you think she has feelings for you. you cheat on your wife with her and then she leaves your life. then youre completely screwed.

if you see that girl again RUN!



my old best mate told me he didnt care that i liked his sister.

my problems were with myself and with her. i didnt want to do anything until i was at apoint in my life that i was happy with. I'm still not there now. i don't want a relationship that could be so serious until I'm ready.

ive had like 5? girlfriends in the time ive liked this woman and shes now had 1. none of mine were serious, hers is.

my problem with her is this:

her mother is the most bitter and crazy woman ive ever met (shes also hot as for her age but thats not the point). when shes angry youll know about it and its no less than 3-4 times a week. when she goes nuts its for hours, and i mean 3-5hrs in a run. her ex-husband (my mates dad and the woman of my story's) put up with it for about 15 or so years until he finally snapped. he started beating her whenever she wouldn't stop.

its been 9 years now since they got divorced and now that she hasnt got a husband she goes nuts at anyone who disturbs her. she has broken my balls so many times and for hours at a time. one time i couldnt take it anymore and snapped and gave it to her. she got scared and backed off. now for the last 3 years since weve barely spoken which is good. ive always said that if she ever started on me again that i would completely slaughter her and say "seriously i can see why your husband used to beat you, youre a bitch."

the problem is the woman of my story is exactly like her mother. i know this, everyone knows this. i hear about it constantly. she does it to her family mainly, but also to some others who she see often. she isnt (usually) like her mother towards me, but there have been 2 occasions where she has. once 6 years ago when we first started being friends and last year, the time that stopped my mate and i being friends. the first time i just took it because i didnt expect it, when it happened last year i fought back.

now shes usually amazing around me and we get along fine. she makes an effort to be nice. 2 big fights in 6 years is pretty good. but i can see that all stopping when shes in a relationship. as soon as I'm around more, and if i were the only one around it would be hell for me.



now that were not talking again its good. i can think clearly and i know i should stay away because nothing good will ever come of it. problem is now i don't really have many friends because theyre her friends too. i don't want to be where she is so its like I'm avoiding my whole group of friends, not just her.

[BouNCE-86]

I regret selling my 86...

Problem Solved - Buy a new one!

[riojin]

i regret ever buying an 86. ive owned and sold 2 and now i want another one

[sly1300]

ah the regret thread.

it all boils down to this.


Women. If they didnt have c**ts, you'd throw rocks them.

[verm69]

words of a wise man... i'm pretty sure jesus even said that...

the story of mary magdalen... the jews were throwing rocks at her, and jesus said... "she has vag. Ye shall only throw rocks at women without vag. Go now, Leave this place..."

and thats why jesus was a ninja...

[nelpd96]

I regret openning this thread.......

[monkae86]

this thread climaxed at sly's post, someone make a motivator on that :lol:

it's true though, but without girls we'd all be lonely buggers with balls the size of watermellons.